WOMEN ROWING NORTH: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age

優雅地向北航行:心理學家給女性的晚年自我實現指南

類別 : 健康養生
ISBN:978-1632869609
頁數 : N/A
出版 : Bloomsbury Publishing, 2019 年 1 月 15 日
版本 : 精裝版
版權窗口 : 繁體博達代理Changchih / 简体版權已售

內容介紹

《紐約時報》、《華盛頓郵報》、《洛杉磯時報》與《出版者週刊》暢銷排行榜作品

 

繼《拯救奧菲莉亞》(Reviving Ophelia)後,知名心理學家瑪莉.派佛(Mary Pipher)為步入晚年的女性,撰寫的一本通往智慧、真實與幸福的生命指南。

 

「我們感到幸福不是因為我們完美或者沒有煩惱,而是因為我們多年來已經睿智到能夠偶爾活在當下。我們具備了欣賞事物本來面貌的能力。這種狀態是人類最簡單和最複雜的體驗。」── 引自 第二十章 精心安排的幸福

 

當女性步入60、70歲,人生就像是轉向北方航行——氣候變得更加嚴峻,挑戰接踵而至,但這也是一生中最能看見璀璨極光、收穫智慧的時刻。

 

當衰老這件無可避免的事終於發生在我們身上,我們是否已做好物質上的準備能夠實現老後的自由?我們該如何面對生理和心理上的一系列變化?

 

作為主要與女性打交道的心理治療師,《紐約時報》暢銷作家、知名心理學家瑪莉.派佛的研究重點一直是女性。在本書中,她溫柔地帶領讀者探討女性在邁向高齡時所面臨的獨特課題。她指出,這個階段的女性往往處於家庭與社會的十字路口,女性難免會面臨年齡歧視、職場瓶頸、家庭變故、容貌焦慮和身體機能的衰退等生命中各種失去的煎熬。然而,瑪莉.派佛在書中揭示了一個令人振奮的真相:大多數的老年女性其實深感快樂,並對生命所賜予的禮物充滿感激。正是這些掙扎與挑戰,幫助她們成長為一直以來渴望成為的樣子——那是更真實、更具共感能力且充滿智慧的自己。

 

派佛深入探討了女性隨年齡增長所面臨的文化與心理發展議題。她結合了自身多重身份的觀察——她是女兒、姊妹、母親、祖母,也是照顧者、臨床心理學家與文化人類學家——引導女性如何培養應對挑戰的韌性。她另外更透過真實的訪談與心理學視角,教導我們如何應對這些變化,進而將這些挑戰轉化為內在的韌性。這不僅是一本關於「變老」的書,更是一本關於如何在生命的後半程,透過與親友的連結、對自我的接納,重新定義幸福,並在晚年優雅地「蓬勃綻放」的行動指南。

 

派佛寫道:「如果我們能保持冷靜、思考清晰並純熟地管理情緒,我們將能體驗生命中最快樂的時光。只要我們規劃周全、裝備妥當,並擁有良好的地圖與指引,這段旅程將會是超越自我、昇華心靈的巔峰體驗。」

 

本書目錄如下:
前言
第一部分 變老的挑戰
第一章 找到人生新的意義和目標
第二章 老年歧視是比變老更嚴峻的挑戰
第三章 健康處方:營養、鍛煉和人際關係
第四章 關於死亡的認識
第五章 好的照護:與疾病共處,是我們逃不開的命運
第六章 擺脫哀傷:如何面對至親的離世
第七章 老後的獨居
第二部分 自由老年必需的條件
第八章 走出任何你不想待的房間
第九章 確立生活當中的優先重點
第十章 給疼痛和壓力打分數
第十一章 聯結感:絕望情緒的解藥
第十二章 我們無法改變過去,但可以讓自己的故事反轉
第十三章 感恩是一種有益健康的習慣
第三部分 人生下半場的同行者
第十四章 珍貴的女性友誼:傾聽、訴說和共情
第十五章 珍惜那個陪你到最後的人
第十六章 家庭是條救生船
第十七章 幫我們趕走孤獨、重返青春的孫輩
第四部分 成功走向多段式人生
第十八章 光彩照人的真實自我
第十九章 與過去和解
第二十章 精心安排的幸福
致謝

 

#熟齡生活 #退休生活 #女性 #心理

作者介紹

1969年獲加州大學柏克萊分校文化人類學博士,1977 年畢業於內布拉斯加大學臨床心理學專業。她曾獲選洛克菲勒基金會貝拉吉奧研究中心學者,1996年和2006年獲得兩次美國心理學會主席獎,並於2007年為了抗議心理學家參與關塔那摩和其他拘留場所的強制審訊設計,退回獎項。瑪麗·派佛是一位專門研究女性、創傷以及文化如何影響心理健康的心理學家,為她贏得了「文化治療者」的稱號。她著有多本《紐約時報》暢銷書,其中包括《拯救奧菲莉亞》 、《彼此的庇護所》、 《另一個國家》以及最近的《女子划向北方:駕馭生命之流並隨生命成長而心盛》。她住在內布拉斯加州的林肯市。

 

作者官網:https://marypipher.com/

書評

“An enlightening look at how women can age joyfully.” ―People

 

“Both practical and inspiring.” ―New York Times "Inside the List"

 

“[Pipher's] 'quest for joy and happiness' is sincere, as is her commitment to helping other women achieve theirs. Some readers will treasure the book. All readers will admire her unadorned but wise summation that answered prayers are 'a surcease of worry.'” ―Washington Post

 

“Full of first-hand anecdotes, the hopeful book doesn't shield the reader from the realities of aging, but rather delivers thoughtful insight and guidance to help women get more out of their lives and to be happier. This mental makeover is a necessity when you consider our senior population, especially women, is growing faster than you can say 70 is new 60.” ―Postmedia

 

“Pipher offers warm, empathetic guidelines for navigating aging and for recognizing its unexpected gifts.” ―BookPage

 

“A wisdom-filled guide . . . Pipher's mindful tips act as a map to joy and remind us that we can flourish through all of our years” ―Woman's World

 

“This is bound to become the bible of baby boomer women.” ―Editors' Picks, Library Journal

 

“Women of all ages will find much to reflect on, and respond to, in this collection of lives lived and lost.” ―NPR, Best Books of the Year

 

“Think of Women Rowing North as a GPS for navigating your later years. And while Pipher, 71, says she wrote it specifically for women crossing from middle age to old age, there is much in the book that is useful for any of us.” ―Considerable

 

“A work chock-full of wisdom and consoling messages . . . While a must-read for its target audience of women moving into old age, Pipher's engaging book is an ought-to-read for their daughters and sons as well, as it sets forth the universal message that 'happiness is a choice and a set of skills.'” ―Starred Review, Publishers Weekly

 

“Uplifting and calming . . . Pipher's skill of listening to clients and parsing meaning is evident in this volume filled with stories of women in the throes of change.” ―Starred Review, Library

Journal

“An encouraging, comforting and very welcome message about the strength and joy that can come with age.” ―AARP, The Season's Big Books

 

“Explores the stereotypes and challenges of getting older and the survival skills women need to be happy.” ―Wall Street Journal

 

“This positive, affirming book will inspire and guide women facing these challenges.” ―Booklist

 

“Thoughtful, wise, and profoundly transformative, Women Rowing North tells the stories that make us feel accompanied and hopeful as well as providing models and muses for all the challenges and joys of this later stage of life. Pipher inspires us to take on this most important role, one that is most needed in these challenging times of division and rancor: that of wise elders joining together and welcoming all into the beloved community she has labored to create. This is truly a one-of-a-kind book, one that I've been waiting for.” ―Julia Alvarez, author of HOW THE GARCIA GIRLS LOST THEIR ACCENTS and ONCE UPON A QUINCEANERA: COMING OF AGE IN THE USA

 

“In Women Rowing North Mary Pipher offers an illuminating, much-needed template for moving through advancing years with gratitude and grace--not through denial or rejection of what's broken and lost but by opening our hearts fully to everything our life delivers. This is a book to treasure, to keep by the bedside to remind us that, contrary to shopworn stereotypes, joy and wonder don't have a time-stamp.” ―Barbara Graham, NEW YORK TIMES bestselling author of EYE OF MY HEART

 

“If I needed one book to guide me through the perils to the delights of aging, it is Mary Pipher's Women Rowing North. It sets the direction, shows the dangers, and brings the reader safely through to joy. I feel gratitude, not only for life, but for this wonderful book.” ―Jane Isay, author of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE: A GUIDE TO NAVIGATING THE JOYS AND CHALLENGES OF BEING A GRANDPARENT TODAY

 

“Simultaneously honest and calming, Women Rowing North is like an extended therapy session for millions of women who are strong and resourceful, but need to be reminded of that. This book examines head-on the losses and crises we all fear, cohering into a profound and comforting guide to living deftly and deeply well into old age.” ―Meg Cox, author of THE BOOK OF NEW FAMILY TRADITIONS

 

“I love this book. Don't stop with a once-through reading. I myself keep it at hand to dip into for a quick shot of Mary Pipher's matter-of-fact wisdom, humor, and instinct for the essential. It never fails.” ―Joanna Macy, author of COMING BACK TO LIFE: UPDATED GUIDE TO THE WORK THAT RECONNECTS

 

“Eye-opening . . . heart-wrenching and uplifting.” ―San Francisco Chronicle on THE SHELTER OF EACH OTHER

 

“An important book . . . Pipher shines high-beam headlights on the world of teenage girls.” ―Los Angeles Times on REVIVING OPHELIA

 

“A generous book conceived and executed by a compassionate . . . mind.” ―Starred review, Publisher's Weekly on SEEKING PEACE

 

“Serious and thoughtful material presented with the fluidity of good fiction.” ―Kirkus Reviews on REVIVING OPHELIA

 

“A must-read for all of us who care about young women in our lives . . . Reviving Ophelia arms us with information we can use in helping our daughters grow to adulthood with their strength intact.” ―Lincoln Star Journal on REVIVING OPHELIA

 

“A canny mix of optimism and practicality.” ―Newsweek on THE SHELTER OF EACH OTHER

 

“An absorbing chronicle of discovery.” ―Booklist on SEEKING PEACE

 

“A field guide to old age, combining personal stories with social theory.” ―The Boston Globe on ANOTHER COUNTRY

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