“What’s on Allison Daminger’s mind? It’s cognitive labor, her term for a vital form of housework we all do but hadn’t named until this pathbreaking work. Through captivating research with diverse couples, Daminger shows that gender equality will remain elusive until we attend to mind use in housework. Already it feels like a classic.”—Caitlyn Collins, author of Making Motherhood Work: How Women Manage Careers and Caregiving

“What’s on Her Mind is an essential contribution to our ongoing conversation about household work and gender norms. Daminger is remarkably successful in documenting cognitive labor through mind-use journals and, importantly, how it feels to be the cognitive laborer. By including queer and nontraditional couples, she brings important stories and perspectives to a typically heteronormative research space.”—Kate Mangino, author of Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home

“Allison Daminger breaks new ground in revealing the sources and consequences of gender inequality by introducing us to the invisible but essential work of cognitive labor. An indispensable guide through the uncharted territory where couples decide who should carry the mental load of identifying and addressing their families’ needs.”—Kathleen Gerson, author of The Unfinished Revolution: Coming of Age in a New Era of Gender, Work, and Family

“This book reveals how cognitive labor—planning, organizing, remembering—has long been placed on certain shoulders more than others. What’s on Her Mind doesn’t just highlight the problem—it points to solutions to help couples have meaningful conversations and build fairer partnerships. A fascinating and necessary read for anyone looking to understand the hidden forces shaping their daily lives, this book will change how you think about mental labor—and who’s really doing it.”—Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)